Who Is the Boss in Our Relationship?

Find out how the two of you actually share the steering wheel.

12 questions · 4–6 minutes

Think about your usual decisions in a relationship where both people can freely disagree. Who proposes, decides, organizes, and follows through? These patterns describe how leadership is shared, not who deserves more power. Answer for your current relationship, or your most recent one.

Fear, threats, punishment for disagreeing, control of money, isolation, or pressure around sex are not a leadership style. If this describes your situation, skip this playful framing and seek confidential support from someone you trust or a local support service. Choose a safe device if your communications may be monitored.

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